He was seventeen and I was too, and for the first time in my life I was in love and felt loved. We spent everyday together starting in May 2002. We became best friends hanging out every single day and building an extremely intimate bond. The funny thing is our bond started over us dealing with break ups. His was worse than mine but when you’re seventeen all break ups seem like the end of the world. I had known him for over a year but we never really hung out, we just shared a mutual friend. I never really thought of him as anybody except Jon’s little brother. Well I guess fate or destiny or some other kind of divine intervention stepped in cause after his high school graduation Jon and him fell out, he had to move to Baton Rouge, La. to start college, and his girlfriend at the time was always cheating on him so they were breaking up. Well being the kind of person I am I was genuinely worried about him. I mean his whole life had changed and he had nobody to turn to, and he was only seventeen. So I basically forced myself into his life and I am glad I did.
Let’s go back to May of 2002 that’s when we started hanging out every day and somewhere along the line our friendship started morphing into something more. I started to have feelings for him in June, but I didn’t act on them or show them in any way. He was starting at LSU in the Fall and had an apartment in Baton Rouge while I had my own place in Covington. Again, he had just graduated high school, his parents both moved to Texas, his best friend/brother wasn’t talking to him, and his girlfriend of three years was cheating on him but using him at the same time. She and her baby (she got pregnant by someone else while they were together and told him it was his, but the other boys parents paid for a paternity test and it was not Joel’s but it was the other boy’s baby) lived with Joel because she needed a place to stay and they were technically still dating. So, I kept my feelings out of it, but at the beginning of July Joel started staying over my house more and more. I asked him if his girlfriend was going to get mad but he said they had broken up completely in June but she had no place to go so she was staying at his place. Well around the middle of July he kicked her out and she went crazy. She destroyed stuff in his apartment, stalked him at my house, and did a lot of crazy things and we were not even dating. Sometime around July 20th my roommate and I decided to buy some tabs(MDMA) and roll I asked Joel if he wanted to come with us and roll he agreed and that’s the first time he showed interest in me. He tried kissing me and I was shocked but thrilled that he had feelings for me. Because we were both under the influence of some pretty hard drugs I turned him down and explained the reason why. Well after that night we became a couple or so I thought. I was so happy and in love, I felt so loved it was amazing and the first time in my life that I really felt like someone loved me. It was the first time in my life that I actually felt like there was a reason to live. On August 10, 2002 we had sex for the first time (first time with each other because we were not virgins) and it was amazing. I really wish we were each others first but I couldn’t change the past. Then on August 11, 2002 he went back to Baton Rouge. He left while I was asleep, didn’t leave a note, and didn’t tell me I was distraught I couldn’t understand what happened or why. I was so hurt he wouldn’t answer my calls and he didn’t try to call me, but I kept calling him. He finally answered on August 12th and I asked him to meet me at waffle House in Covington at 9pm. When he showed up I could tell something was bothering him so I asked him but he shrugged it off and asked me why I asked him to meet me at a Waffle House. I asked him how could he lead me on for months sleep with me and just disappear. At that point he looked shocked and said he didn’t disappear but had a class on August 11th and fell asleep afterwards but when he got ahold of me I sounded off and asked him to meet me at Waffle House. Basically it was a miscommunication and I officially asked him out he said yes, that was 17 1/2 years ago and we are still together. It hasn’t been easy AT ALL.
Now, that is probably the one and only time my blog will have so much information about me. I just wanted anyone and everyone to understand that I AM NOT A MARRIAGE COUNSELOR IN ANY WAY SHAPE OR FORM. All of my advice from here on out is basically from books and/or experiences. With that said I am qualified in Wedding and Event Planning, well certified. I have a certification from Stradford Career Institute in Wedding planning and I have one in Event planning. I will post two times a week on this blog Tuesday nights and Friday nights. On Tuesday I will post Wedding & Event planning advice starting with a checklist and timeline. I will follow the time line starting from the 15-12 months before the big day. I will go through the check list and answer all emails, but I will give budget friendly advice. On Friday I will post marriage and relationship advice and try to help answer any and all emails. From time to time I will have real life stories thrown in but nothing like this post. I am extremely excited to start this new journey and hope I prove myself worthy of a lot of people. So click the subscribe button below send in your questions and I will be back Tuesday January 14th 2020 with a new post. You said YES but have no clue what you need to do next. Tune in Tuesday to find out. Goodnight everyone and here we go.
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